It’s been two weeks since the finale, and two weeks since a post that I made from an anon that had pissed off Tumblr. Usually I just let it slip off my shoulders, but since that Thursday two weeks ago, I have received 42 anon hate messages.
I apologized for posting it and had hoped that it made some kind of amends to Holly and Jessica, since they were hurt by the anon’s submission.
I originally said that during the off season that I would post about awesome cosplayers helping their community but at the moment I just want to take a break. So, that is what I am going to do. If things calm down and I feel like it would be worth it, I will pick up posting the awesome cosplayers and celebrating that.
But, at the moment, I will just be quiet and chill in the corner. If I feel that it is fun again I will pick up the memes again for Heroes of Cosplay. If I don’t feel that it is worth it or fun anymore, I will just turn this blog into people struggles with sewing and cosplay, so the name is still relevant but, hopefully will no longer get hate anons for it.
I really appreciate that you’re saying this. I don’t know if you saw my comment when you first started the blog (here!) but this is the exact response I was hoping to get then. I’m sorry you got hate mail after you posted that last thing, like I said then, you don’t deserve to be treated poorly either.
In another post, you said:
To Holly, Jessica and Chloe.
I am truly sorry that you have been hurt or angered by this. Even though it was submitted by an anon, I do feel responsible for posting it. I am sorry. I have always thought that you three last season, with Becky, were the fresh air the show needed. All of you had stood up to injustices of common cosplay attitudes and this season you didn’t stop and continued to show that cosplay is for fun.
I want to also add I personally do know that all of the hard work you gals do and that reality tv is never what it’s supposed to be. I know that editing, re-shooting, more editing and even the prompting of questions can change a whole scene and twist what you are saying. When I watched that particular episode, it was not something that I got stuck on.
I am sorry and I hope that you can forgive me. Please, keep being awesome and I can’t wait to see what else you gals will be working on.
Thank you for the kind words :) I’m really glad to hear you want to be more positive, and I think it’s so cool that you might turn this blog into something about issues with sewing - the struggle is real! I’d follow that :D
I love to make fun of myself, and I love to make fun of the world. My favorite comedians challenge and critique, they provoke thought, and they do it with a wink in their eye, leaving you laughing. Satire and black humor are powerful tools but also harmful weapons. To me, nothing is inherently off limits in humor, but I personally try to remember whenever I can: punch up, not down.
Shine on all you clever people. Make me laugh, even if I’m the butt of the joke (especially then, let’s be honest, I’m vain) but the pen is mightier than the sword. Hold yourself responsible for your actions - freedom of speech is not a free pass for accountability. Thank you again, and to anyone out there who has re-thought things like you. We’re all human <3
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This article is heartbreaking. And true.
There is a reason I throttled back on doing a lot of creative gaming content a few years ago. And why I still avoid taking some jobs in the gaming world when they’re offered to me. And why, when we have a female host on any of our Geek and Sundry gaming shows, we have to monitor the comments on YouTube extra, to remove the many comments that are offensive and pollute our community’s spirit of equality. Because I hate that shit.
There is an endemic acceptance in the gamer world that “well, it comes with the territory” when a woman receives threats and harassment and the hateful anonymous internet dialogue is focused on her body and whether they would “do” her or not. I don’t know why this became okay. It’s a vocal minority that has been given way too much power over the industry dialogue, and I am so happy to see more and more articles like this shining the light on what reasonable gamer men and women have been conned into accepting as a given.
NOTHING is a given in this world. And frankly, it taints the art form we so love and keeps it back from becoming more respected and more diverse to not at least TRY to fight it. Gaming deserves more than complacency in this area.
Even posting this link will cause me to receive hateful Tumblr PMs. I can always tell when something I write gets linked on certain places on the internet (like 4 Chan or a few other forums of troll-hood), because I’ll immediately get dozens of hate mails along the veins of what is posted in this article.
Well, I’m a lucky one to be prominent enough to have 10 supporters for every hater. I mostly feel sorry for girls and women who aren’t in my position, who may just give up on gaming when they’re too beaten down to fight anymore.
We have to change that. For the good of what we love doing, gamers! Okay, back to work :)
This such a truthful and positive perspective from Felicia about an issue that I’m hugely passionate about and work daily to counteract, the vitriolic and unacceptable nature of online commenting, especially toward underrepresented and silenced communities. She has harnessed such a mature perspective on these issues, and I’ve learned a lot from following her work.
Please check out the linked Polygon article for a thoughtful piece that demonstrates some specific case studies without getting defensive or lashing out. Think about how you, men and women, might be contributing to these problems without thinking.
The new Batgirl design has been often credited to Cameron Stewart OR Babs Tarr but rarely to the both of them. The design process was in fact a collaboration with both artists contributing to the final design.
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Love reading about how this costume design was put together <3